What If They Don’t Get It?
The vulnerable edge of showing up differently
There’s a moment right after clarity that no one talks about.
You’ve done the quiet work.
You’ve untangled some of the noise.
You’ve shed the skin of old strategies that no longer fit.
Maybe you journaled through it.
Maybe you sat in silence long enough to hear what was actually yours.
Maybe you stopped posting, pitching, pushing just long enough to let something truer rise to the surface.
And then… it does.
That new voice. That new offer. That re-articulated purpose.
Something that feels soft but solid. Quiet but unshakable.
And just as you start to shape it into something shareable, something speakable,
the fear arrives:
What if they don’t get it?
When clarity meets old expectations
You used to be “the designer,” “the copywriter,” “the coach who helps with X.”
You used to explain yourself in clean taglines.
You used to know what people expected of you, and you learned how to deliver it.
But now… things feel messier.
Your words have more edges, more poetry, more pause.
Your offers feel less like boxes and more like rivers.
You’ve grown, deepened, softened.
And you worry: Will they follow me here?
Will the people who used to nod along now tilt their heads in confusion?
Will they scroll past the deeper words?
Will they say, “This isn’t what you used to talk about,” and quietly leave?
And worse — will they be right?
This is the part where many creators freeze
Not because they’re out of ideas.
But because they’re afraid of being new in front of people who remember the old version.
The fear of being misunderstood is sharp.
It makes us shrink our truth.
It makes us over-explain, over-edit, over-prepare.
It makes us delay the post, rewrite the pitch, water down the message;
just enough to stay recognizable.
Just enough to avoid the risk of not being seen clearly.
But in doing so, we often trade resonance for safety.
We trade our voice for our old brand.
We trade evolution for familiarity.
But here’s the truth: if you’ve done the work to come home to yourself…
You don’t owe anyone the version of you they remember.
You only owe yourself the integrity of staying with what you now know.
Because that’s what emergence is:
Not a launch.
Not a new logo.
But a return to something original in you that you’re finally ready to name out loud.
And yes, it might feel tender.
Because resonance always does.
Resonance doesn’t mean everyone gets it.
It means you do.
It means you’re finally saying something you don’t have to force.
It means your presence feels less like a costume and more like a clearing.
It means you can stand in your message without bracing for misunderstanding,
even if misunderstanding comes.
This is the moment where your visibility becomes a devotion, not a demand.
A story from the field
One of my clients, a gifted writer and facilitator, recently emerged from a year-long season of quiet.
During a session, she said, “I know what I want to say. I just don’t know if I’m ready to be seen saying it.”
We slowed it down.
I asked her what she was afraid people might think.
“That I’ve changed too much. That I’m not clear anymore. That I’m trying too hard to be deep.”
She laughed as she said it, but her body told the truth.
This wasn’t about copy. It was about self-trust.
So we mapped her message. Not with formulas, but with breath.
We let the edges stay soft. We honored the pause.
And when she finally shared a piece of that truth, not in an announcement, just in a post…people responded not with confusion, but relief.
“I’ve been waiting for someone to say this.”
“This is exactly what I needed today.”
“This feels like the you I always sensed.”
She didn’t need to be clear in the way she used to be.
She needed to be real.
A practice for this threshold
If you are at the edge of something new:
a voice, a message, a way of being seen,
and it feels terrifying to speak from this new place…
That’s okay.
The fear you feel is not a sign to stop;
it’s a sign that this matters.
So this week, let yourself write the message you’re afraid to post.
Not to publish it. Not yet.
But to give it shape. To meet it on the page.
Ask yourself:
What truth am I carrying that feels too new to name out loud?
Who am I afraid will misunderstand me and why?
What does it feel like in my body when I speak without self-editing?
Sit with these.
Let them work on you.
Not as content, but as compass.
You don’t need to be understood to be in alignment
Sometimes, the most aligned message won’t land right away.
Sometimes your audience needs time to catch up to the clarity you now carry.
That doesn’t mean you’ve lost your voice.
It means your voice is leading.
You are not here to echo what’s familiar.
You are here to offer what’s real.
And those who are meant to walk with you,
they’ll feel it.
Even if they don’t fully understand it yet.
Even if you don’t fully understand it yet.
Because resonance is not a transaction.
It’s a remembering.
A magnetic pull toward what is true.
And truth always creates movement, even in silence.
This week’s offerings:
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You don’t have to shout.
You don’t have to be perfect.
You just have to stay with the truth.
We’ll meet you there.